My life and the way I see it

The Gestalt Prayer

I found something interesting when I read a psychology book. A “prayer” that used for therapy, Gestalt Prayer.

The “Gestalt prayer” is a 56-word statement by psychotherapist Fritz Perls that is taken as a classic expression of Gestalt therapy as way of life model of which Dr. Perls was a founder.

Text of “prayer”:

I do my thing and you do your thing.

I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.

You are you, and I am I,
and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.

If not, it can’t be helped.

(Fritz Perls, “Gestalt Therapy Verbatim”, 1969)

The key idea of the statement is the focus on living in response to one’s own needs, without projecting onto or taking introjects from others. It also expresses the idea that it is by fulfilling their own needs that people can help others do the same and create space for genuine contact; that is, when they “find each other, it’s beautiful.”

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestalt_prayer

25 Things I’ve Learned About Life: Lessons from an entrepreneur

Here are 25 things that a young entrepreneur named Derrick Fung has learned about life.

image

When I turned 25 a few months ago, I wrote down some of the things I’ve learned over my short time on earth. The last year has been a crazy roller-coaster ride which has enabled me to see certain things like never before. Last year during this time, I was working at what I would consider my “dream job” – well, before I discovered my current “job” (I don’t think I can even call it a job). Over the last year, I’ve tried to learn from people who have “made it” in life – entrepreneurs, figureheads, lawyers, bankers and even politicians. I’ve realized that there is no formula to success in life, but there are definitely lessons that can be learned to help along the journey. I came up with the following list which I hope to someday come back to – but for now, I think it’s a pretty accurate depiction of how I think ;) So without further adieu:

  1. Take risks when you’re young. The older you become, the harder it gets. But they should always be calculated.
  2. The most important thing you learn in school is how to learn. Once you master that, nothing will stand in your way. Never stop learning.
  3. I would rather say that I tried and failed than live a life of regret. You miss every shot you don’t take.
  4. Dream big. Life is too short to only be mediocre.
  5. Music is the cheapest and simplest cure to life’s problems. Queue up your favourite play list, put on some headphones, and take a walk. You’ll instantly feel better.
  6. Drink beer. Lots of it. It makes you think more creatively. Oh, and wine too.
  7. Join clubs and put yourself in as many different social settings as possible. It will help you understand people and make you a better communicator.
  8. Start your own business as young as possible. Even if it’s a lemonade stand, it will teach you business lessons you’ll use for the rest of your life.
  9. If you’re going to fail, fail fast and make it public. Don’t drag it on. Then pick yourself back up. Knowing that others watched you fail will encourage you to prove them wrong.
  10. Meet lots of different people. Life is serendipitous in many ways and you never know what can happen.
  11. When life throws lemons at you, make lemonade. Then pour it for all your friends. Be optimistic. It spreads like wild fire.
  12. Success does not lead to happiness. You need to be happy first before you can become successful. Find what makes you happy. Don’t stop until you find it.
  13. Many people don’t want to start businesses because they are scared. Successful entrepreneurs got to where they are because they were willing to tread where others wouldn’t. If you’re too scared to leave your 9-5 job, entrepreneurship is not meant for you.
  14. Surround yourself with people way smarter than you. That is the only way you will be challenged to grow.
  15. Only those who are with you during the struggles deserve to be with you when you celebrate the successes.
  16. Pick and choose your battles carefully. There are only 24 hours in a day. If something isn’t worth your time, just say no…or outsource it to India ;) (thank you 4 Hour Workweek)
  17. The most important asset to invest in is yourself. Take classes to make yourself a better person and never stop learning. Buy books. Lots of them.
  18. True friends will never question why you disappeared off the face of the earth. They will be there for you unconditionally.
  19. The more comfortable you are with a job you don’t want to be doing, the harder it will become to leave it and chase your dreams. Learn what you can, then go change the world.
  20. A dream job does not exist. You have to create it.
  21. Travel as much as you can. You will come back with a wider perspective of the world and more ideas on how to change it.
  22. “Thank You” – the most powerful two words in the English dictionary.
  23. God gave us all a purpose. Don’t settle until you find yours. I didn’t think mine was to sit in front of computer screens and trade foreign exchange, so I kept looking.
  24. The world may seem big and scary. But the older you get, the more you realize that everything is man-made. Nothing is set in stone. Don’t stick with the status quo.
  25. Life is not easy. But having the right support group with you during your journey goes a long, long way.
Do you have any more to add to this list?

Reblog from http://blog.fastcompany.com/post/42505278049/25-things-ive-learned-about-life-lessons-from-an

What Must Be Done in 2013

I have THREE MAIN CONCERNS for 2013:

First one is THESIS:

Tesis adalah penelitian mendalam,  yang sungguh-sungguh dilakukan dengan proses  yang berasal dari berbagai informasi dan data yang dikumpulkan.  Tesis berangkat dari suatu masalah dan bagaimana kita menyelesaikan suatu masalah tersebut dengan menggunakan pandangan dan analisis mendalam  kita  berdasarkan ilmu, teori, puluhan jurnal yang kita pahami dan berbagai data yang kita miliki. 

Ngebacanya aja dah berat, kalau ngejalaninnya… Harus dibawa fun biar semangat! Paling bener kalau ada yang nyemangatin sih..  Hahaha. We’ll see, pokoknya 2013 harus kelar! Amin!

Second one is EXPANSION:

Ek, perluasan peredaran uang ke dalam sirkulasi.

Gw harus menetap di suatu daerah beberapa saat, dimana gw bakal melakukan ekspansi untuk mengetes dan melakukan riset terhadap pasar di kota-kota besar. Karena target tahun ini adalah Stereo Desserts Go National. This should be fun, traveling+networking+opening distribution channel at the same time! Semoga lancar, amin!

Third one is LIVING HEALTHY:

Pola hidup sehat mempunyai 3 pondasi utama yaitu nutrisi yang tepat, olahraga yang teratur, serta manajemen stress yang optimal. Dengan menjalankan ketiga pondasi hidup sehat, kesehatan Anda akan lebih terjaga kini dan nanti. Niscaya, berbagai penyakit seperti gangguan jantung, stroke, diabetes, hipertensi, kanker, ataupun jenis penyakit yang lain dapat dihindari.

Harus sudah mulai sadar umur, being twenty something means taking a really good care of your own body, if you want to live longer, period. Gw sudah harus mulai memperhatikan apa yang gw makan, seberapa besar kalorinya, dan dengan kata lain, harus sudah mulai makan makanan-makanan yang rasanya hambar (kalori rendah) buat hidup sehat dan menjadikannya sebagai sebuah habit.

Selamat tinggal wisata kuliner.. Eh, sekali-sekali sih gapapa lah, sekalian buat nyari inspirasi baru.. :D

These are my Resolutions in 2013. What is yours? Please kindly share your resolution here. :)

Art of Marketing = Art of Brand Building

  “The art of marketing is the art of brand building. If you are not a brand, you are a commodity.

Then price is everything and the low-cost producer is the only winner.” – Philip Kotler

Kali ini saya ingin membahas tentang brand building, kenapa?

imageDalam buku 60 Minute Brand Strategist oleh Idris Moote disebutkan:

To plan for one year, grow sales.

To plan for three years, grow channel.

To plan for decades, grow a brand. 

Sama seperti layaknya manusia, sebuah brand memiliki nama, personalitas, karakter dan reputasi.

Dan layaknya terhadap manusia, kita bisa memberikan respek, bahkan mencintai sebuah brand.

Kita bisa menganggapnya sebagai sahabat, atau hanya sekedar kenal.

Kita bisa melihatnya sebagai sesuatu yang bisa kita andalkan atau remehkan; yang berprinsip atau oportunis; yang peduli atau yang masa bodoh.

Sama seperti saat kita berada diantara orang-orang tertentu atau orang lain, begitu pula apakah kita menyukai beberapa brand dan bukan brand-brand yang lain.

Serta layaknya manusia, sebuah brand akan tumbuh matang dan merubah produknya seiring waktu. Namun karakter dan keyakinan intinya (core belief) jangan sampai berubah. Begitupula kepribadian fundamental dan pandangannya terhadap hidup.

Setiap orang memiliki karakternya masing-masing, hal itu juga berlaku untuk para brand.

Karakter seseorang mengalir dari integritasnya: kemampuan untuk  menghasilkan sesuatu di bawah tekanan, kemauan untuk melakukan hal yang benar daripada yang bijaksana.

Kita menilai karakter seseorang dari kinerja masa lalunya dan bagaimana dia berpikir dan beraksi, baik dalam keadaan yang baik terutama dalam keadaan yang buruk.

Hal yang sama juga berlaku pada brand.

Sebuah brand merupakan aset tak berwujud yang berada di hati dan pikiran masyarakat.

Hal ini didefinisikan oleh harapan orang tentang manfaat tangible dan intangible yang dikembangkan dari waktu ke waktu oleh komunikasi dan, yang lebih penting lagi, dengan tindakan!
image

Untuk membangun Brand yang sukses berarti melakukan empat hal berikut:

1. Membuat Janji. (Brand Promise)

2. Mengkomunikasikan Janji tersebut.

3. Menjaga Janji.

4. Menguatkan Janji tersebut.

Aspek nyata dari brand Anda adalah Janji.

Apa yang terbaik yang dapat Anda lakukan?

Apa imbalannya?

Apa yang bisa konsumen Anda andalkan ?

Janji ini menjadi bagian intrinsik dari pesan pemasaran Anda.

Agar  Anda untuk memiliki janji ini, Anda harus berkomunikasi strategis dan kreatif di berbagai jenis Media yang luas.

Kedua pihak Anda, baik internal maupun eksternal harus menjadi pemercaya sejati dari janji tersebut.

Dan satu-satunya cara untuk membuat mereka benar-benar percaya adalah dengan menepati janji tersebut.

Hubungan berbasis kepercayaan dan memberikan nilai lebih yang disebut brand adalah bukti bahwa perusahaan secara organisasional selaras untuk mengulangi proses dan mempertahankan nilai-nilai.

Cari dan bangun niche Anda. Perjelas kemampuan Anda yang berbeda untuk membuat dampak.
Tentukan hubungan yang diinginkan antara pelanggan / calon pelanggan dan produk Anda.
Ciptakan ikatan emosional melalui setiap interaksi dengan pelanggan.
Layaknya manusia, merek memerlukan nama, kepribadian, karakter, dan reputasi.

Brand Management adalah elemen penting dari strategi perusahaan, bukan semata-mata fungsi pemasaran. Ini membantu perusahaan dalam menciptakan nilai bagi para pemegang saham. Strategi merek adalah ekspresi yang berjalan terus-menerus dari strategi bisnis.

imageBranding sering disalahartikan dengan kampanye iklan atau identitas perusahaan. Perusahaan masih beralih ke brand sebagai obat mujarab. Di tangan pemula, branding menjadi cara untuk mengaburkan kesamaan relatif atau membuat janji yang tidak dapat dipenuhi, bukannya mengkomunikasikan keunikan yang relevan dan membangun kepercayaan serta kredibilitas.

Ada tiga kunci persyaratan untuk membangun brand yang kuat:

1. Kepercayaan antara brand dan konsumen

2. Identitas umum antara brand dan konsumen

3. Titik perbedaan antara berbagai brand dalam satu set

Satu hal yang pasti dari branding adalah efeknya yang tidak bisa dilihat atau diukur langsung setelah kita melakukan brand activation, karena membuat sebuah brand yang kuat membutuh waktu yang lama dan proses yang terus menerus hingga perspektif yang kita inginkan menancap dibenak konsumen.

Yap, sekian blog post saya kali ini, selamat melakukan brand building dan brand management bagi diri, bisnis, maupun perusahaan Anda! :D

Surplus Economy!

We have a surplus of similar companies, employing similar people, with similar educational back- grounds, working in similar jobs, coming up with similar ideas, producing similar things, with similar prices and similar quality.

We also have a surplus of similar brands, having similar attributes, with similar marketing messages and slogans, coming up with similar brand claims, with similar quality, selling at similar prices. Welcome to the Surplus Economy!

 

What Is Your Brand Personality?

Which one is your brand? Or what kind of brand that you want to make?

Hope it helps! Cheers! :D

5 Steps to Create Your Personal Branding

  1. ilham_stereo
    What do you want to be known for? What the first thing you want to have pop in their heads when they hear your name? #PersonalBranding
  2. ilham_stereo
    Let me share The Five Universal Objectives of #PersonalBranding for everyone who wants to grow their personal brand.
  3. ilham_stereo
    1. Discover your passion, passion is fundamental to achieving your goals. #PersonalBranding
  4. ilham_stereo
    Some are passionate about their work, others passionate about their hobbies
    & still others haven’t found their passion #PersonalBranding
  5. ilham_stereo
    The third category (no passion) are dead inside, whether they know it or not. #PersonalBranding
  6. ilham_stereo
    You need at least one passion in your life, it can be something you’re known for or something you do in private. #PersonalBranding
  7. ilham_stereo
    The great thing about sharing your passion is that you can get to know people who share your interest & create relations #PersonalBranding
  8. ilham_stereo
    2. Be bold, it’s okay to talk about yourself. #PersonalBranding
  9. ilham_stereo
    Our parents&teachers told us that talking about ourselves is bragging,but telling your accomplishments is different thing #PersonalBranding
  10. ilham_stereo
    The problem is that we associate self-promotion with bragging. Example: “This will happen if I brag about what I do”. #PersonalBranding
  11. ilham_stereo
    Self-promotion is just letting people know what’s going on in your lives,keeping people apprised of your accomplishments. #PersonalBranding
  12. ilham_stereo
    The biggest difference between self-promotion & bragging is the motivation behind why you’re telling people. #PersonalBranding
  13. ilham_stereo
    If it’s something you’re proud of,something you’re excited to tell people because you just got to,that’s self promotion. #PersonalBranding
  14. ilham_stereo
    If you announce something so other people will be envious,jealous,or just think you’re cool, that’s bragging. #PersonalBranding
  15. ilham_stereo
    Creating your online personal brand means showing your personality. If you’re interested in some things, share them. #PersonalBranding
  16. ilham_stereo
    The important thing is to realize that people are interested in what you have to say & it’s perfectly all right to say it #PersonalBranding
  17. ilham_stereo
    3. Tell Your Story. Your story is what makes you special. #PersonalBranding
  18. ilham_stereo
    Believe it or not,the best way to build your personal brand is to talk more about other people,events&ideas than yourself #PersonalBranding
  19. ilham_stereo
    That’s because if you talk about other people and promote their victories and their ideas,you become an influencer. #PersonalBranding
  20. ilham_stereo
    You’re seen as someone helpful & also a valuable resource.That helps your brand more than just talk about yourself. #PersonalBranding
  21. ilham_stereo
    Rather than wearing a sign that says:”I love to eat”,you could write a blog about it or even make your own food. #PersonalBranding
  22. ilham_stereo
    By blogging or sharing your favorite topic,you tell the world your story,without annoying by saying it over&over again #PersonalBranding
  23. ilham_stereo
    4. Create Relationships, it lead to opportunities. #PersonalBranding
  24. ilham_stereo
    Whether you’re online or out in the real world, treat every person you meet as possible future resource. #PersonalBranding
  25. ilham_stereo
    Faith-based networking: you will meet the right person at the right time for the right opportunity.
  26. ilham_stereo
    You need to treat each of these new relationships with care. Nurture them,help them grow,and tell people your story. #PersonalBranding
  27. ilham_stereo
    This is where social media comes in handy. It lets you stay in touch w/ people in between the times you meet face2face. #PersonalBranding
  28. ilham_stereo
    It lets you learn about the details of others,so when you get together,you get to spend more time talking deeper issues. #PersonalBranding
  29. ilham_stereo
    Those moments where you do know each other better are where those opportunities are going to come from. #PersonalBranding
  30. ilham_stereo
    5. Last but no least: Take action, even a small step is a step forward. #PersonalBranding
  31. ilham_stereo
    If you want to someone notable or be considered an authority in your field, you have to start somewhere. #PersonalBranding
  32. ilham_stereo
    Although you’re not going famous with a single blog post or a single YouTube video,you can’t start without your first one #PersonalBranding
  33. ilham_stereo
    It’s matter of writing post after post,video after video.It’s publishing those 999 posts that makes the 1000th effective #PersonalBranding
  34. ilham_stereo
    Ask people who found success in what they do. All of them will tell you that they work harder than anyone else. #PersonalBranding
  35. ilham_stereo
    I think that’s all I can share about Five Universal Objectives of #PersonalBranding . Hope it will help those who read it. :)

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 1,614 other followers